About

Headshot by Ben Zvan

Sometimes there are things I want to address, but outside the context of UDoJ. I’ve been thinking about setting up a separate blog for that.

Here it is.

I suppose instead of just writing this damned post out, I’ll let it evolve. (I’m a highly skilled procrastinator.)

Around the web…

Crowded Head, Cozy Bed – This blog.
My Twitter Page
Sex in the Public Square – Contributing Editor
After the Bar Closes – a science forum I moderate
My Photostream at Flickr

About FCD…

FCD stands for “Friend of Charles Darwin”, an appellation you too can aquire, just by going here and following the directions.

About me…

First of all, I was going to say that I’m the author of U Dream Of Janie and Kissing Corporal Kate. But the truth is the girls have taken on such a life of their own that I’m really just the secretary that takes dictation.

I’m 41, and just taking another go at college. My previous attempt was in the mid-nineties, which failed utterly in my third semester when I had to take a job managing a college bar. It’s not a job conducive to 8 AM classes. I intend to become a Biology teacher at the high school level.

I’m disabled. I wrecked my neck in a fall at work back a few years ago, and I’ve been a fairly useless lump since then.

Teaching might be the one job that saves me from staring at the four walls for the rest of my life, as I should be able to alternate standing, walking, and sitting, enough to get through the day. It will be immensely satisfying to feel useful and productive again. My accident left me with degenerative arthritis, however, and the prognosis is that I will eventually be confined to a wheelchair. I do what I can to stave that off, like taking the stairs instead of the elevator. I don’t know if that will really help, but it beats doing nothing.

I’ve got a lovely second wife (who also happens to be my first wife). She’s the lucky lady who gets to listen to me snore, gets kicked out of bed because I can’t sleep well and I toss and turn, and puts up with all my whining about my neck, back, arms, and legs that never simultaneously work the way they’re supposed to.

We were married the first time back in the late ’80s, and we were way too young to be married. We wound up divorced in the mid ’90s, though we remained best friends. Fortunately for me, sometime around the turn of the millennium she realized the error of her ways, and knew she just couldn’t live without me. So we reunited, and after much begging from her, I agreed to marry her again. (Alright, this is MY page and I can remember things any way I want, reality be damned.) We retied the knot in July of 2005, and honeymooned in London, UK. We returned the following year with the kids.

We have two great kids from the first time we were married. Their idea of a good time is trying to see who can make me insane the fastest, and they’re rather accomplished in that regard.

My daughter is a high school senior, and is a dual enrollment student here at Coastal. My son just entered high school.

We have a fairly recent addition to our little family. Shakespeare is his name. Born in mid-July 2006, he’s a 75 pound Golden Retriever, and he’s a handful to keep up with. It’s like having a toddler in the house again. He’s a pain in my butt sometimes, so it’s a good thing I like him.

I’m an outspoken atheist, I have no use for abstinence only sex “education”, I’m vehemently in favor of equal marriage rights for the GLBT community, I moderate an anti-anti-science forum (After the Bar Closes, the forum associated with The Panda’s Thumb) and the first time a creationist tries to mess with my kids’ science education they’re going to hear me all the way in Siberia.

I’m a sex-positive activist, and can be accurately described as a feminist. I’m newly a Contributing Editor at Sex in the Public Square, a sex and gender activism related website run by Dr. Elizabeth Wood, Assistant Professor of Sociology at Nassau Community College in New York.

I tend to speak frankly, and I don’t abide theocrats or homophobes quietly. I use offensive language when it’s useful, and I have been known to write erotic stories under an openly secret pseudonym (two, actually).

I was born and raised in Philly, though I’ve spent most of my adult life below the Mason Dixon. I moved here in 2004 for the weather, and to be close to my Aunt Helen, a former Marine who died in August of 2007.

And that, ladies and gentlemen, is probably exponentially more than you ever wanted to know about me.

About this blog…

Like this post, I suppose I’ll just let the blog evolve. I’m kinda shootin’ for a more mellow tone here than at UDoJ or KCK, but we’ll see what happens.

Bah, it is what it is.

Cheers.