(Emailing Under the Influence)
So there’s this teacher at my son’s school who has really been riding my son’s ass.
I’ve blogged before about how my son has really taken a turn for the worse in terms of attitude, temper, and school work, and up until recently I’ve been rather unsuccessful in putting my finger on just what the problem is.
Turns out it’s this teacher. All my boy’s issues seem to be stemming from here and just spreading. Now, my son is no angel. He’s full of energy. Full of piss and vinegar, but he’s always been good natured. Never had a problem at school, rarely with other kids.
He’s one of the nicest kids I know… until recently.
Anyway, this teacher is very inexperienced, and very authoritarian. That just isn’t a good combination for a middle school teacher, and now he’s pretty much turned the issues with my son into a battle of wills. I’ll tell you now, he won’t win. A 12 year old boy does not respond well to having a boot on his neck. I know. I was 12 once, a long long time ago.
Yesterday things just went over the top.
Email from the teacher:
Dear Mr. FCD:
I’m sure you are going to get a phone call about this from Mrs. Whatsherface, but I wanted you to hear it first hand. Here are some disruptive comments made by James today:
-“Hopes the school burns down”
-Said: “Are you going to make me do another Venn Diagram” (I’ve done one all year)
-Finished his 10 min. journal writing in 2 min. and said “I’m done, now what?”
-After his verbal warning he said, “Cool-does that mean I’m going to get an ASD”
-I believe he threw a pencil across the room although I don’t have 100% proof
-Said “I don’t care”
-Shouted out “I don’t have my texbook”.
-Bragged about getting a 55 in class and that he doesn’t care about points
-He also said “this is gay” to Mrs Smellycunt, amongst other disruptive behaviors there.
I will be discussing his situation with our team to find another solution because this is obviously not working. Until then, he will have ISS I suspect for the next few todays. He also seems to hold a grudge against myself and Smellycunt because we email you when these incidents occur.
Teacher the Dickhead
Ok, this is just silly. Now you’re going to punish him for having a bad attitude about school which you caused.
My response (under the influence of the meds I tend to be less inhibited):
To this point, I have tried to give you the benefit of the doubt. I suspected that your obvious lack of experience with kids was something that you would get over, and that you were intelligent enough to adapt quickly.
But this is ridiculous at this point. I’ve spoken to several of the kids in James’ class, and it’s quite apparent that you seem to be looking for reasons to cause problems with James. It’s no damned wonder he hates school and especially your class now.
Perhaps instead of a Jackboot, a bit of effort would be more helpful. You seem to have forgotten that you are a teacher, not a Drill Instructor. Maybe you would be more successful instructing Marines.
You seem to be totally oblivious to the fact that middle school kids are not automatons, they are not servants, they are not Marines. They don’t sit down and shut up and take dictation just because you are the teacher and you say they must, and no amount of force on your part will change that. In fact, your treatment of James is a good anecdotal example of the fact that force and intimidation will only exacerbate the existing issues.
We have NEVER had this sort of problem between James and a teacher, and I have never seen his attitude so poor, his anger so frequent or intense. He only began acting like this when he started having problems with you. It has spread to his other classes, it has spread to his home life. You sir, are hurting my son and I will not stand for it.
Be aware that I will be speaking to the vice-principal again, who has already explicitly mentioned that your inexperience is at least a good portion of the problem. I expect my son to begin receiving an education from you instead of being your whipping boy.
Yes, I’m pissed.
Yeah, well. Fuck him.